Monday, November 22, 2010

Caesarean Awareness Night

Tonight I attended a "Caesarean Awareness Night" sponsored by a group here in Charlottesville. It was advertised as a session just to get together and talk about Caesarean births - learn about them, share your stories, talking about how to have a good Caesarean birth, specifics about local hospitals, etc. Seeing that both of my kids have been born this way, and seeing that it was an event that didn't appear to be c-section bashing, I decided to go.

I should have known better. In the end, it was more respectful than your typical c-section/vaginal birth discussion, but it was still not what I expected. I shared my story about how Dean was born, not to scare anyone, but just to remind people that in the end, the most important thing is truly that your baby and you are ok. And I still shared all the info I had about how women can have the birthing experience they want to have. It's just not all in our control. Not saying that all c-sections are justified or anything (and this is really not trying to start a debate about the whole birthing issue), just that it's not the most important thing at the end of the day. Sigh.

That said, it was good to get some tips about what to expect at UVa and certain things that I can ask about as options for the birth, etc. Either way, just excited to meet the little man. 9.5 weeks to go!


CaneWife said...

I'm sorry it wasn't what you expected. It sounded like it had the potential to be a really amazing event.

Allison Peretin said...

Ali, I've also had two c-sections -two very different experiences, and have learned a lot. How did you learn of the c-section meeting? I'd love to be part of a group that would support moms who go through csections, or a group that helps educate.

Ali Foley Shenk said...

Hey Allison,
I heard about it through the PNOC (Parents Network of Charlottesville, if I remember correctly :)) email list. Are you on it? It's through Yahoo. I think it was just a one-time thing. It's sponsored through BIrth Matters, which has a variety of support groups for different birth-/parenting-related topics.