Thursday, September 8, 2011

One-on-One

Tonight I went to the parents' night at Cole's new preschool (school starts on Monday). It was informative, and just nice to sit down and think about just ONE kid instead of my brain being three different places. I thought about how creative Cole is and how much he loves animals and learning and superheroes. :) I thought back to when it was just him and how I barely remember those days even though that was only 3 or 4 years ago. I guess a lot has happened since then (ya think?).

I thought about how sometimes I took "just" having one kid for granted, how much fun it was to pour all of you into one little person. I love Dean and Emmett and truly don't regret having them, but there's something special about that first. Unfortunately, I didn't realize most of it until we had more kids.

It reminds me too how important it is to make one-on-one time with each kid here and there. This is really hard to do with our schedules of work and who's sleeping or working while the kids are sleeping blah blah blah. But it's worthwhile, for the kid and for the parent. What are your favorite things to do with just one of your kiddos if you have 2+? Or what special "dates" do you remember having with a parent as a kid? Would love to hear your stories.

2 comments:

Jennifer said...

When I was younger, my parents realized that they were spending a lot of time with me because of my special needs/health issues, and so they made a concentrated effort to make my brother feel special and included by doing lots of one-on-one activities with him. However, my brother's one-on-one time was spent at baseball games, amusement parks, movies, and other fun stuff, whereas my one-on-one time was spent in hospitals, doctor's offices, and PT appointments - not fair! When I finally pointed this out to my parents (I think I was around eight years old), they realized I had a point, and so my trips down to Johns Hopkins started including aquarium visits and fun dinners out, and after PT on Thursday afternoons, my dad and I went on dinner dates and then to the mall. During my freshman and sophomore years of high school, he'd pick me up from the rehab center where I volunteered on Saturdays, and we'd head to the movies. We went to the national spina bifida conference in PA and hit up Hershey Park together - I have so many memories having fun with my dad. So while it's important to spend time with the non-special needs kid, it's equally important to spend FUN time with the special needs kid - and this is something I always stress to parents.

Ali Foley Shenk said...

Absolutely! There was a point where I realized that all the one-on-one time I was having with Dean was right before a specialist visit or a surgery. :/ Not cool. I'm excited to do more fun stuff just with Dean, too. :)