Tuesday, May 1, 2012

No Pity

Oh, this is so good. Pity is never a good thing. Empathy is, walking alongside someone is, pity is ick. This mom nails it. http://www.parents.com/blogs/to-the-max/2012/03/13/uncategorized/why-you-shouldnt-feel-sorry-for-special-needs-parents/

2 comments:

giuliatta said...

My mom and I didn't experience pity, we experienced scorn.
For example, with my stepmother.
I would add that pity is a form of scorn, especially when someone says (like my stepmother) that "Social services would have done better than that mother who does not love her child".
It's a kind of pity which is scornful. Stepmother had a pity which was scornful because she dreamed she could make her stepchildren (my sister and I) her children. She took my undiagnosed disability as a way to get it.
Nowadays, she wonders why is she hated by my sister and I. If she is as intelligent as she claims to be, she should have some idea.

Pity is abuse. Pity is scorn.
Let ignore those folks who pretend to want to help whereas they stab you behind your back. Pity is a mean for them to better stab you behind your back. Treat them like if they didn't exist, consider them as not existing persons who don't deserve your time and energy.

Ali Foley Shenk said...

Giuliatta,
Thank you for your comment. I never thought of it that way, but I think you are absolutely right about pity and scorn. May we all turn from those and figure out how to walk alongside people.
Ali