Monday, June 18, 2012

Calculated Risks

If you've been following for a while, you remember the dilemma with the trees in our front yard from last year. They were big, they were dying, and we needed to get them down. ASAP. So we did.

Even then, there was another tree we were eying in the backyard: this giant poplar.

Yeah, it's enormous. It's a house-crusher. As far as we can tell, it's the tallest tree anywhere near us in the neighborhood, which is saying a lot considering the number of trees here. Out of the blue, a tree recently fell on and crushed a lot of one house down the street. We had this tree looked at today and the arborist believes that it's generally in good health. However, it needs at least some decent pruning, and he admitted that poplars are generally not the strongest trees. Hmm.

So what to do? Prune it? Or just eliminate the risk altogether and take it down? Either way, it's expensive because of its size and location (in the backyard with really limited access).

But really, this isn't about a tree. Thinking about this tree made me think about how many calculated risks we all take in life. Particularly with a child with PWS, there are many calculated risks. There is a lot of evidence for the benefits of growth hormone, although limited research on long-term use. Dean has been through four elective surgeries because we believed the benefits outweighed the risks (we've been right so far :)). We try other supplements and medications believing the same. We try certain therapies and pour time and money into these activities believing that it's worth it all for Dean. We take Dean to the hospital or decide to manage something on our own depending on what we think we know or don't know about his symptoms.

Funny thing about risks is that even if you make the right decision, it's not a safeguard against everything. We could cut the poplar in the backyard down and then something else entirely different could hurt us. We could think that PWS is Dean's biggest enemy and then he could do something like break an arm, which would have nothing to do with PWS.

We do the best we can. You are doing that, too.

What calculated risks come to mind for you?


Janet Gulley said...

Every decision is some sort of calculated risk, especially when it comes to our kids. And I mean all the kids we have not our PWS kids. What schools, should they spend the night at that friend? How many activities are too many, how we feed them, how much independence do we give them an when? You have a lot of calculating left to do my friend. LOL

Dorette said...

I agree with Janet - life is full of calculated risks. Choosing to HAVE children was a huge risk - but the rewards are SO worth it.

Dealing with our son's special needs and medical issues makes me thankful that my life's other huge caculated risk (marrying DH) paid of well! Our son is SUCH a joy (and way more than just a bunch of "issues"), but it certainly is a blessing to have my soul mate along for the ride.

I think we as believer have an advantage - the guidance of the Holy Spirit is always there to assist in making decisions/taking risks. And even if a risk taken fails (at least from our limited viewpoint), God is ALWAYS there alongside us.

Oeps! Sorry about the novel

Ali Foley Shenk said...

No apologies, needed, Dorette! My point is to have others reflect, and you did just that. And well said, too!